Female's Guide To Male's Mind On: How To Identify Lies

    This post is about catching liars. Men lie often and for several reason, especially when it comes to women. They usually lie just to impress them. Sometime they lie to make thing seem better than what they are. Other times it's done to make things seem not as bad as it looks. Either way it is in a woman's best interest to figure which it is before going to far with a particular guy. It could be the difference between kissing a frog or a prince. So I'm going to cover a few signs that might help a little.

     First lets start with the eyes. They say the eyes are the window to the soul. I don't know if that's true or not but it is a window to seeing some lies. So here are a few clues to look for in the eyes. One is looking up and to one side. This isn't necessarily a sign of lying as much as it's a sign of thinking. If what you're saying is the truth, there doesn't need to be but so much thought. Now it could be just a matter of memory. Looking away is a sign of lying as well. When they avoid direct eye contact it's usually a sign of some deceit. Also a childlike innocent stair into the eyes can be suspicious. This is a sign that they are trying to convince you more than it is they're lying. It just means it's important to them that you believe them. The last eye signal is how they watch you. People that lie tend to study your reaction to see how much you believe them or buying the story. Personally I don't like eye signals for telling lies, because no matter what, almost all the thing people do with their eyes are signals of lies. I just prefer to use them as sign to tell about how much they are thinking and then see if I should investigate.

    Which brings me to speech. Speech is the big tell when it comes to lying. There are patterns that liars usually can't avoid. For one liars get a little defensive when questioning their. story. When telling the truth one doesn't mind explaining again something that didn't seem clear the first time. Also they get aggressive when you show evidence to the contrary of what they said. They are also evasive when asked follow up questions. Liars tend to separate themselves from the lie. So a lack of words like I, myself, or me is a good sign. Being vague about details are a good signs of lying. You may also notice with liars they may pause a lot in speaking. Rambling is a pretty good signal of lying but it could also be nervousness. With a lot of uuuummm an aaaahhhh with there stories is the hint. A good signal of lying is when there is a pause before a specific question. Not something like what do you want out of life, but things like where were you last night. When they pause to think about the answer, that is cause for concern. Now those are few speech patterns to look for when talking to some one that could be lying.
 

   The last set of signals of lying are for physical movement or gestures. Eyes and speech for the most part are more about thinking. The body gestures are just giveaways when it comes to lying. These are things people do without thinking about it. One sign is not facing the person there are talking to. A liar might kind of take side angle when talking. Putting oneself in a tight posture is a sign. When they sit on their hand or put them between their thighs and hold that pose while talking is a reason to doubt. Touching nose while talking is a hint of a few lies. That's where the Pinocchio story comes from. Covering the mouth is a sign. A huge signal is a smile with no emotion behind it. That's a sign of dishonesty. Excessive sweating is a sign of dishonesty. A sudden over demonstrative or animated articulation is another big giveaway of less than truthful statements.

  Now those are the clues to look for when looking for lies. It all boils down to how well you know the person. A boyfriend or a guy you hung out with a few times, they're great indicators of lies. The new people in your life is where you don't necessarily count on them. When you see these signals, it doesn't necessarily mean the person is lying. A lot of the physical clues are mostly signs of nervousness, which brings the question, what are you nervous about. When it comes to the eyes and talking clues, it is more of a clue that they are thinking. Telling the truth is a lot easier than lying, so less thinking is needed. Keep this things in mind, especially when you meet some one new. It may not be him lying as much as it's a guy meeting a new person he likes and wants to make a good impression. Don't have doubts just because a guys thinks before he speak. You should only be weary. Simply put, the signals are just signs to investigate, not to chalk it up as untruths. There are some techniques on how to investigate that but that's another subject all together. With that being said I'm ending this post.


 By: intimate asking