This post we are going to talk about casual dating. With internet dating being the new way to meet people and so many dating sites, you would think women would have mastered the art of casual dating. The men outnumber the women on these sites at a rate of five to one. So to take full advantage of these opportunities, casual dating is the only way to go. Unfortunately most women don't date casually or don't do it right. A lot of women have a tendency to find a romantic interest and stay focus on just him. Forsaking all others until they can figure out how much they like him or how much he likes them. They do their best to try and entice him to see things their way in an attempt to gain a relationship, when they could’ve gone on a couple dates with him and a few others simultaneously. When it doesn't go well, not only has a lot of time been wasted, but they may have lost their chance to go out with others who also had potential. So instead of just continuing on with one of the others, she has to now start over with someone else. With this way of going about things, women find themselves going months and sometimes years between relationships, looking for the one that lasts. Most women believe it's a waste of time going on a date with a man that they have no romantic interest in. So casually dating someone isn't really considered. This is so sad because to not do it or not doing it right can be emotionally exhausting, time consuming, and at the bare minimum inhibits one's ability to improve their dating skills. When one casually dates, they meet several people and learn more about what they like, don't want, and so on. They put more thought in what they think about the other person instead of what the other person thinks about them. There is no pressure to impress, so you learn how to have fun on dates even when you're bored, what kind of questions to ask, and how to be an all around good date. The biggest thing is you take a lot of pressure off yourself and your date when you start spending time with someone you do like. Did I mention all the extra activities you participate in and new hobbies you may pick up.
Dating should be fun not a hunt for commitment. Casual dating is done with that intent in mind, fun. It's done without an agenda or a purpose other than to be social and to get to know someone. If you find that special someone as you go fine but if you don't also fine, as long as you have fun. For most men, it isn't fun to be sized up for marriage on the first date or any date for that matter. Not until they have been in a committed relationship for a significant amount of time is it acceptable in a man's mind. They understand for a lot of women, marriage is the ultimate goal so it happens, but it is unnerving none the less. Therefore most men take a casual dating approach to dating in general ( at least in the beginning ). So why shouldn't women do the same. There are exceptions to the rule but most men go on dates based on a woman's sexual potential. Even when looking for commitment, they start with physical attraction and sex appeal first. They think about her long term potential in their pursuit for sex. Some men date with just sex in mind and some date with just commitment in mind but very few go on a first date expecting a level of exclusiveness. So they ask women out with a casual dating mindset. Granted they aren't expecting women to focus on just them, but they are hoping for it. So men do find it a little disappointing when they find out that they aren't her only option but only the less confident and the chauvinistic lets this stop him from going forward. As long as they feel she has time for him and isn't playing games or wasting his time, it won't hurt a woman's chances for something long term with him. It may even help, depending on his ego. Who cares if it did? A woman should be with her man based on what she thinks not what he thinks. If a guy wants a woman for himself, it's his job to convince her he is all she needs.
If you're going to casually date, you need to do it right. First rule is to go in with an open mind. Don't have any expectations and few limitations. You are there for you, not him. No you don't see yourself ever really being seriously interested in every guy but be willing to see what every guy has to offer. He may surprise you or maybe even change your mind. Which brings me to the second and probably the most important rule, have fun. Try to have fun and enjoy the experience. Even if you don't see yourself being with your date long term, that doesn't mean you can't enjoy his company. Try to learn about him and from him. You may find something new in him that you want in a man, even if you don't want it from him. Take part in all activities that feel comfortable. You may find a new hobby or even a new group of friends. Another rule is, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't obsess on one guy until you have good reason to. That's the beauty of casual dating. You're not stuck waiting on one guy to respond, wondering where you stand or when he will contact you. So you should go on as many dates as you can handle. The next is to be honest. There is a difference between having fun feeling a person out, and leading a guy on. If it is more than one or two dates and you are positively sure there is no romantic angle, let him know how you feel. If you like hanging out with him but don't want anything romantic, tell him as soon as you're positive you don't want anything like that. Then if he continues to ask you out, it's on him. If you're not sure then, it's not as necessary. Just know the more dates you go on without making your intentions known, the more he may expect from you. So it is best to be as honest, direct, and open as possible. That includes letting them know they aren't the only guy. Know honest doesn't mean detailed because men do judge. For example, letting them know they aren't the only one is OK. How many or what happens with the others isn't necessarily in your best interest. Offer enough details to satisfy questions and comfort levels (yours and his). Just make your intentions clear, show you aren't playing games, or with anyone's emotions. To avoid awkward situation or conversation all together, just keep a two date maximum for any man that has no chance at all. Then you don't need to tell him much of anything, it's none of his business. The next rule is to take your time and not make any snap decisions. That goes for both types of men, the ones that have potential and the ones that don't. The guy you like should be thoroughly evaluated as much if not more than the guy you don't see yourself with. How many men did you think were keepers that turned out to be losers just because you didn't take the time to look a little deeper? Lastly is affection. Just because you're casually dating doesn't mean you give or hold back affection in one regard or the other. You can kiss all or none or sleep with all or none. It's at your transgression and you don't have to be fair or impartial, in fact you should be quite the contrary. Each suitor is to be handled on a date by date basis. With you being judge jury and executioner, and no justice is not blind. She see things quite clearly and sometime even sees things that aren't there, especially when she gets drunk and want to have a little fun. 
Finally I want to talk about why you should do it. When you start to date casually, you will begin to realize so much more in men that you didn't before, only because you didn't have anything to compare them to. It's just like shopping. When you're at the grocery store, do you by the first melon or steak you see or do you look at most of the steaks and melons available? That's what I'm talking about. You learn more about yourself and what you want in a mate. The things you like and dislike about men and dating in general become clearer. Another thing is you don't waste time focusing on just one guy. Think about all the times you did and all the other dates you lost because of it. It also allows you to take your time evaluating guys. If you are dating more than one guy at a time, you will find that you won’t care if any particular one shows interest or not. Yes you're looking for Mr. Right, but it's the difference between eliminating the guys that aren't Mr. Right as oppose to waiting for someone to call, so you can figure out if he's Mr. Right. Getting out feeling social is better that sitting on your couch feeling bored and alone. While you are out, you may meet a friend of your date that you do like or maybe he can even hook you up with someone that you will eventually like. Your time, attention, and emotions are valuable. They are not for sale but they should be earned. Casual dating makes you realize that. It is better to spend time on a new friend possibly more, than to waste more time waiting on a possible boyfriend. Why pay attention to a guy that doesn't pay any to you and it's easier to hold your emotions back from a guy you don't want to have them for, than it is to have them for a guy that doesn't have them back. So start making men earn it. Simply put, it is better dating to eliminate men, instead of waiting to see if they eliminated you.By: Intimate Asking
